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You are concerned for a friend, a sister, a daughter or a colleague who experiences domestic violence? Silence is not an option.

Recognize the warning signs:

• He keeps calling her when she is visiting you or when she goes out with you.
• He humiliates her in front of you; he interrupts her when she talks.
• When he is nearby, she seems uncomfortable. She acts differently or she keeps quiet.
• You may have noticed unexplained bruises.
• She talks less and less of what is going on at home; she is less assertive and does not believe    anymore in her abilities.
• She looks unhappy or anxious and does not say why.
• She takes medications or drinks too much.
• She devotes herself to maintaining the household, taking care of her marriage or serving her    partner.
• She looks tired or desperate.
• She finds all kinds of excuses often at the last minute for not showing up.
• She often complains of vague symptoms.

What you can do:

• Ask her if she has been physically hurt or if she is afraid of her partner.
• Believe her if she says yes.
• Help her develop a safety plan.
• Explain to her that it is dangereous to deny abuse as it will get worse over time.
• Tell her what you know about domestic violence.
• Tell her about women's shelters and what to do in a crisis.
• Encourage her to speak up about the abuse.
• Support her by telling her it is not her fault, that she is not alone and that leaving does not    mean deserting.
• Allow her to make her own decision about what to do.
• Do not judge her.
• Support her in whatever decision she makes.
• Help her explore her options and their consequences.
• Accompany her if she needs your support.
• Do not challenge her abusive partner.
• Respect her feelings and her ability to cope with change.

And remember...

Our staff at the Maison des Femmes can help you assist her. Our phone number: 418-962-8141.